They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. But we actually like more “Every Struggle is for Our Good”. We face sometimes difficult situations and we get sucked up and stuck in them. it’s confusing and overwhelming. Among emotions it’s not easy to find clarity or see the reality for what it is. Sometimes we just feel like shutting down or running away. The thing is that, when we struggle facing situations that make us feel angry, sad, insecure, confused or afraid, there is a lesson for us to learn.
Our first impulse may be to point with the finger, blaming or projecting on the other person actions or situation. And we may be right, that person may be not acting how we would expect or like, he/she may be not acting loving. But we need to bring the attention to OURSELVES. If we feel a struggle and negative emotions coming up, we need to ask ourselves: “Why do I feel this way? Do I recognise these emotions?” You realise that the same known and old feeling has been coming up along the years – insecurity, fear, feeling of inferiority, abandonment- This is an opportunity for us to become better persons. The pain and struggle comes from our EGO. Probably relating to something that happened in the past, most likely when we were children. It’s an old wound. And we feel like “defending ourselves”. We don’t want to be hurt again.
Do no take things personal. Take distance from the situation as everybody’s actions are a projection of their personal world or frame of reference. We are all humans and have our “weak points”. Be aware of your feelings. Embrace the moments of vulnerability. It takes effort and courage to look sometimes at the mirror and reflect on ourselves. Realise those negative emotions belong to you, not to the other person. That explains why situations do not affect us all equally. Because each of us has different lessons to learn. Be loving and compassionate to yourself.
The next step, when ready, is to be open and honest. Open up and express yourself. Put yourself out there and do it in a loving way. Not pointing with the finger but expressing how things make you feel.
Like you, we have been confronted too, having to deal with our ego. But we realise that when embracing vulnerability, the struggle disappears. Vulnerability becomes a strength. By taking responsibility of our feelings we become better persons. We are HAPPY & READY to face whatever comes in our path because deep inside we know it’s for our HIGHEST GOOD!
Photo take from the train in Sri Lanka